She even made some words on lesbianism that were interesting as well. Calling a person that recently identifies as lesbian a "newbie" and tourist and calling herself a "lifer". This was to differentiate between people she believed were unsure of their lesbianism and those who, like her, never questioned it.
In chapter six, Córdova writes how her friend Morris didn't believe that lesbians feminists were valid lesbians. He only accepted men and women that were more "manly" than what was socially acceptable. It is from this that she might get her extreme beliefs about small things like a relationship. If her own gay friend didn't believe in her, another gay person, then it only fueled the fire in her fight for civil rights.